Tuesday, May 13, 2008

This Article was in the Gilbert Tribune last week.

Mom's influence still strong after childhood
by Brooke Romney - May. 5, 2008 02:00 PMSpecial to the Republic

The reality of motherhood is nothing like the dream of motherhood. Before the first baby arrives, surely most women think they will never have a kid who disrupts other diners in a restaurant, who bites another child when trying to get a toy or who starts a fight on the playground.
I was sure I'd never have a child like that, but I've got three boys who have disrupted more diners than I'd like to count and left their teeth marks in plenty of shoulders. No playground fights yet, but none of them have started school.
During long days of sick kids and naughty behavior or when I feel completely incapable of being a mother, I rely on my mother's words of wisdom. She was not a coddler or touchy feely, but she taught me that I could do absolutely anything I wanted to do.
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According to her, no obstacle was too big and no challenge could defeat me. When I felt weak she encouraged me to press on, and if I thought I couldn't she emphatically told me I could and I would.
Plain and simply, I am the person and mother I am today because she told me I could be. And, you always believe your mother.
Heather Banbury, a Gilbert mom of two, has learned less from her mother's words and more from her mother's example.
"My mom was diagnosed with MS in her 30s," Banbury said. "She has lost the ability to walk and use her hands. In spite of this, her motto has always been, 'You are in charge of your own attitude.'
"She chooses to smile when it would be easier to be bitter, and she finds great joy in her family, especially her grandkids," she continued. "When I bring my kids over, she always says, 'I am so lucky!'
"Even though their grandma can't take them to the zoo or the movies, she gives them a greater gift every time they see her. If I am having a bad day, or attitude, I try to remember my mom's motto and positive example and hope I can teach my kids the same," Banbury said.
Mottos can seem a bit annoying during the tumultuous teenage years, but those same words often become the compass for your own family.
Vonda Guttery chooses to live by her mom's motto: "You don't have to fill your life to have a full life."
"I've always tried to make sure that we were never so overbooked that we couldn't enjoy being together as a family," she said. "I watch families around me running from practice, to school projects, to church activities, but we try not to overbook.
"My mom taught me that the most important place to be is at home. I love her for that," said the Gilbert mom of six girls.

At home, Anya Allen always felt loved and accepted and tries to create that same environment for her two young children.
"The most important thing I learned from my mother is to love my own children unconditionally," said the Gilbert mom of two. "There will be times when my children won't meet my expectations or will be in trouble, but even if they are being punished or reprimanded, I still need to dole out kindness and let my children know I will always love and accept them."
Brooke Romney lives in Higley with her husband, Mike, and their three young sons. Send comments and story ideas to brookeromney@cox.net.

By the way, it wasnt my moms motto, its mine. I try to live by it.

2 comments:

Charlene said...

Wow! You're famous! That was a neat article. Curt actually went to high school with Brooke Romney up in UT.

Missed you at Bunco!

Tamee said...

Right on Sista! I already feel the need to remind myself to not overbook, and my oldest kids is only 4 years old. My kids love to be home yet everything pulls ya away from the house.
Thanks again for doing the tribute to mom. Every one made me smile and really reminded me of mom.
We aren't coming until the end of July. We'll find ya another ding before then.
Love ya

GUTTERYISMS

  • 4/12 Shayna - I said "I really want to buy that table but I dont know where I would put it" (been buying used furniture that I want to redo and its been cluttering up the garage. Shayna said in her sweet inocent voice "you can put it in the garage?"
  • 4/12 - Tessa "Mom, you know what I dont like about mornings? - the sun!"
  • 4/12 - Shayna got her braces a couple of weeks ago and her teeth are starting to go together and she said "Im gonna miss my gap" and she was seriously sad - she wont get to squirt water through her teeth.
  • 3/12 Breea again..... "Mom, I thought it was Lack toesintolerant and I was lacking the toesintolerant, until I read the label"
  • 3/12 Breea was talking about college and she said "In my siriculum (curriculum), I have to take physicology (psychology)"
  • 3/12 - Tessa said - I want to take the "long cut" (instead of the short cut)
  • 3/12 When tucking Shayna and Tessa in Shayna said "You dont have to worry, I set out all your clothes for school tomorrow" - Very Shayna
  • 11/10 When Kayla was little she should always cover her eyes when we went by a graveyard.
  • 4/10 Dont want to forget that Shayna calls the pools water fall a waderfoddle. She also called Aunt Kay, Uncle Kay??? McKenna got grandpa mixed up when she was little and called him "Bunka"
  • 3/10 For some reason, our family forgets the rules to Mexican rummy, shang hi and ALOT of card games, so last Sunday we just delt cards and everyone played whatever rule they wanted. The game lasted about 4 minutes, but we all won!
  • 2/10 I was going to work in Tessas class and she said "Mom, what if you mess up" and I told her I would try not to, but the next thing I know she is asking me if I will pray with her and ask Heavenly Father to help me not mess up. She prayed, and I didnt mess up! (all papers were copied a colated correctly)
  • 3/10 McKenna saying what she liked about Brennon on his Birthday "I like your style and your swager"
  • 12/09 Tessa went to the girls play and said "Willy wonka is hot"
  • 12/09 Kayla has a slight ring worm problem and if you try to hug her she says "OK, but your gonna get all wormy"
  • 12/09 Tessa has been adding Sophia in every prayer including the blessing and this is what she says "Please bless that Sophia will feel better in no time" and her blessing tonight was "Please bless that none of the kids singing on the truck will fall out" - Shes a great prayer
  • 12/09 Tessa said "Mom, I think Im on Santas Bad list" I said "probably not, why are you worried about it?" Tessa "I really dont like coal"
  • 02/09 I asked McKenna if she had taken a shower and she said "I took one, but it didnt work"
  • 11/08 Shayna said "I wish we could have quads like the Poulsens and Jensens, but were too unrich"
  • 10/08 I was bringing Breea home from school and she asked "Can I do my jobs tomorrow? I asked why and she said "If you were to take all the headaches in the world and put them together - thats my headache" DRAMA
  • 10/08 Tessa hands me the camera as we are walking out the door and says "You better take this in case I do something cute"
  • 9/08 Shayna was about 5 and she was giving dad a message and he said "thats a deep tissue message" she said "hold on" and left and came back with toilet paper and stuffed it down his shirt and said "I want to give you a deep tissue message"
  • 8/08 Tessa after hearing some of Kaylas guy friends talk has picked up a new saying "Girls are the devil" - nice.
  • 8/08 As I was carpooling I asked Bailee who she wanted to marry, she said Dallin. Shayna said "Well he is cute mom, no offense"
  • Kayla - She says almost on a daily basis "This will be the last time........" Whether its someone moving, leaving on a mission, the last two weeks before graduation, etc.....
  • Brennon - Whenever he does something he knows we dont like or accidently steps on a toe or runs into someone, he just puts his hand up, smiles and says "high five" You gotta love it
  • Danica - Classic saying "Asians are geneous's"
  • Tessa - 6/08 At the doctors office he was looking in her sore ear and noticed there was still a stitch left in her eyebrow and proceeded to take it out while I was holding her down. She screamed really loud, looked at the doctor and said "I am NOT loving this"
  • Shayna 4/08 She came running in the house, grabed a dress and started heading back out the door to go to Nathaniels baptism. I said "Hey, come back we have to do your hair" She said "No, I dont want to be pretty for Nathaniel" Sure enough, when Bailee and Taryn came over they had their hair perfectly curled, cutest dresses and their shoes matched their dresses (unlike Shaynas)
  • McKenna 4/08 - I had the best dream last night. Mom: What about? McKenna: Snickerdoodles.
  • McKenna and Brennon - 4/08 McKenna: I want to put light blue hightlights in my hair like Klowd 9 - Brennon: I want Lypo.
  • Breea - 4/08 (In a very dramatic manner) "My coach almost killed us today, a few of us threw up, some passed out, she wanted to kill us. I almost threw up."
  • Tessa - 4/08 Talking to Grandma said "The Easter Monster leaves me lipstick under my pillow"
  • Shayna = 4/08 Kayla called from a show but couldnt talk. She said she would call at intermission. Shayna heard me say this and said "Kaylas in her mission?"
  • McKenna - 4/08 "Mom your not fashionable, but you can grow into fashion. It just takes about a month"
  • Kayla - 4/08 Mom said "Its crazy how I have two batches of girls, the older set and the younger" Kayla - "Im glad we could be your test batch"
  • Tessa 4/08 "Brodey - Lets get this party started"
  • Shayna 3/08 I asked her what she did at the gym daycare center she said "I just cleaned things and organized them"
  • Breea 3/08 While saying a prayer at Grandma and Grandpa Hatchs, she says "Bless the Hatchs". Her grandparents were wondering if she even knew she was their granddaughter.
  • McKenna 2/08 Mom, dont buy meat or sugar, Im turning vetrenarian.
  • Tessa 2/08 Mom: Tessa, your such a good girl. Tessa: I dont say stupid or do bad sings.
  • Tessa 1/08 - She was getting chewed on by the puppy and she was half-laughing saying "Are you evil or not evil?"
  • Shayna (6 years old) - She was mesaging dads back and he said "little harder, I need a deep tissue rub" So she went into the bathroom and got a handfull of toilet paper and stuffed down his shirt (deep tissue)
  • Shayna, 11/12/07 Mom: Shayna, say your prayers and thank Heavenly Father for all your blessings. Shayna (super tired): Thats so much. Do I have to thank him for ALL of them right now?
  • TESSA 2007 HALLOWEEN "SHRICK OR SHREET"
  • Some of our favorite word to call each other when gas is passed: POOPER MCGOOPER, FARTER MCGARTER, FLUFFER MCGUFFER, CRAPPER MCGRAPPER, AND TOOTER MCGOOTER
  • Danica (2) Yepadottado
  • Tessa (3) "Mom, I luz you and you luz me - weez luverz"
  • Tessa (3) - "Youz fweekn naughty" Mom "Who taught you that?" Tess "yo mom" (Thanks older sisters)
  • Breea 3 years - We have lots of gerds in our famie.
  • Tessa 2 years - Yoooz funny!
  • Tessa would often take off her shoes at church and when we asked her why she kept taking them off she said "my feet are grumpy". I guess it was better than Shayna at that age not wearing underwear to church (many times) We finally had to start doing panty checks before church.
  • Tessa (3) thirteen, fourteen, five-teen
  • McKenna (10 in a couple of weeks) - Mom, please let me go in with you. Mom - why. Mckenna - I saw a sign that said "criminal on the loose" Mom - I promise not to go in, I'll just talk to her at the door. McKenna - Im gonna roll down my window and watch you *tears bubbling up in her eyes. Mom to friend - Is there a sign that says "criminal on the loose" in your neighborhood? Friend - No, just "crime watch" neighborhood sign.
  • Kip, Kip, Kurray!
  • Tessa said "Can you take my brain off" and I asked her why, and she said "Its really so tight" 8/9/07
  • "sorry your such a looser" *pointer finger used as a puppet - McKenna (5)
  • Grandma Guttery was showing Shayna (4) a picture of me pregnant with her and Grandma said "Thats you inside your mamas belly" and Shayna said "She ate me?"
  • I need some Wotion on my Weggs - Tessa 3
  • Guess what guys? If you put the milk back in the refrigerator it will stay cold. - Kayla 17
  • TESSAS RENDITION OF "OH CHRISTMAS TREE" TURNED INTO "OH PISSMAS PEE" (SHE COULDNT FIGURE OUT WHY EVERYONE WANTED HER TO SING IT ALL THE TIME)
  • "I REALLY DONT LIKE PEOPLE IN THE KITCHEN WHEN I CLEAN, ITS MORE PEACEFUL AND I LOVE THE WAY THE COUNTERS FEEL WHEN I WASH THEM" - SHAYNA (6) - JUNE
  • "YOUR HAPPY WID ME MOM" - TESSA - EVERYDAY
  • Kayla - 4/08 Mom said "Its crazy how I have two batches of girls, the older set and the younger" Kayla - "Im glad we could be your test batch"